25 Things I’d Like My Sons to Know

Taken from: The Good Men Project

1. It’s harder to take a punch than to throw one.

2. Find the people who make you laugh and follow them around like a golden retriever. Laughing is like a vitamin. You can never get enough of it.

3. A guy who hugs a lot is comfortable in his own skin.

4. Read poetry.

5. There’s nothing wrong with looking at porn, but having sex with someone you care about is a thousand times more fun.

6. When you feel like crying, for joy or out of pain, let ‘er rip. If you don’t those tears out, they will calcify in your chest and make it harder to love as fully and deeply as you would like to.

7. Crank the tunes when you have to clean the house.

8. Look deeply into the eyes of the one you are falling for to get a glimpse of his or her soul.

9. Spend a chunk of time every year with people who are much less fortunate than you are. It will fill your heart with gratitude.

10. Never lie about anything really important. The first lie will cause you to have to lie again and again to cover up the truth. And each time you’ll chip away an important piece of yourself.

11. Find work that makes you happy. If you can change the world in the process all the better.

12. If you get the chance to travel across the country or across the globe, take it. You will learn way more from people who are different from you than the ones who are the same.

13. Doing nothing is better than doing the wrong thing. But you are going to make mistakes. Tons of them. The real question is what you will learn from them.

14. Don’t be in any rush to get married. Divorce really sucks. A good marriage can start when you’re 21 or 61.

15. There’s nothing wrong with a Cuban cigar once in a while.

16. Money and power look good, but they won’t fill your being with joy the way your family will.

17. If you like guys, I will fight for your ability to have equal rights in every way.

18. Find a way to move your body that gives you pleasure. You don’t have to be an athlete to be a man, but your body is a temple and you need to care for it, enjoy it, and use it to express yourself.

19. Drinking can be fun in moderation. Just make sure to ask for help if you find yourself blacking out or doing things you regret.

20. Radical honesty will get you very far in this world. Most people don’t have the guts to speak their mind, regardless of the consequences.

21. Always give your spouse birthday presents in bed.

22. Find a spirituality that you can wear like a loose coat that keeps you warm no matter the weather. God should provide you comfort not make you feel ashamed of yourself.

23. Sex is great but holding your spouse in the middle of the night is one of the best feelings any guy can have.

24. Live passionately. Dream big. Don’t back down.

25. Always remember I love you, no matter what happens. You cannot lose me. I will always be there.

Rest now.

Last week was just shitty. A lot of awful things happened all at once. I had a really sick kid, and I lost a high school friend… Sigh.

My son had his first medical emergency ever. He was really scaring the shit out of me, (he was severely lethargic, not talking, dehydrated, not eating, acting like a total zombie) so we took him to the ER. I honestly thought the doc was going to call me paranoid and I’d feel silly for overreacting and just send us home with something for his cough and fever. He had a chest x-ray and it turns out his whole left lung was fucked. He had a pretty serious pneumonia, my poor baby was not getting enough oxygen. We had to be transported by ambulance to a children’s hospital in Dallas. We were there a few days while he got IV fluids and antibiotics. He’s better now, still recovering. I’m glad that’s over. My anxiety will disappear once he’s back to 100% normal.

One of my friends from high school passed away. We weren’t close, but it is still a sad thing for someone to die so young. I regret not being able to hang out again and catch up on old times. We had some good memories, one in particular: our trip along with another friend of ours Jennifer to the Texas Renaissance Festival when we were 16. We enjoyed the faire, spent money on crap like jewelry, watched boys, admired the costumes and ogled the chain mail goods. We walked around eating turkey legs and fried alligator, I got a cartilage piercing that never quite healed and left a scar! Later that night we spent the night in a huge tent on the campgrounds and got very drunk when strangers invited us to share their keg. There was a bonfire, music, so much happiness and celebrating. I’ll never forget it. I always wish I had photos from those two days, and even though I don’t have any, I still remember everything so vividly. I don’t need photos. Here’s one of me and her (middle) and another one of our friends, Maryann in high school.

Forever young.


Rest now, girl. The pain is over. <3

AshenSorrow Designs

Everyone should go check out my best friend Ashlie Dawn Nelson’s (@ashensorrow on Instagram) Society6 store. She collaborates with her husband Sean and has beautiful products featuring their art for sale. She sent me this gorgeous canvas tote bag with their piece “Under a Full Moon” and I absolutely LOVE it. (does not include Halloween buttons!)




DIY: Lego Dresser

I was given an old chest of drawers for my son’s bedroom a couple of months ago. I decided it would be my new DIY project because once I saw it, a ton of ideas flooded my brain. I came across a Lego themed dresser on Pinterest and knew that was the one. My kid is a huge Lego fan and it seemed simple to make with minimal spending. I think it was a brilliant gift for him for his birthday and he absolutely loves it for clothing storage.





The total cost of materials was less than $75 which is pretty damn good. A piece of furniture like this purchased at a retail store would no doubt sell for hundreds of dollars.

I had to buy basic supplies (that can be used for future projects) that I didn’t have around the house like paint brushes, drop cloths, sandpaper, wood glue, and painters tape. The cost also included the black paint, white primer, four cans of spray paint, wood filler, and most importantly, the wood disks which were purchased on Etsy. (Etsy has EVERYTHING!)

I began by removing the drawer pulls, and then lightly sanded the entire surface to get rid of water rings and scratches. After that I filled the holes where the pulls had been nailed in with wood filler, which I had never used before. Next came primer on all the surfaces, so the paint would go on smoothly and so the colors would really pop. I painted the dresser next, it took two coats of black paint and I was SO pleased with the results. It was so elegant and looked brand new. After that I took a break, because I had a bunch of other things to do and got bored. Eventually I started up again and began gluing all 64 wood disks together. I had to sandwich two to get the thickness right for the Lego “pegs” and then took exact measurements on the drawers in order to glue all eight pegs on perfectly.


After that it was time to spray paint. It took a day for those to dry completely before putting them in the dresser. After a few hours of drying, I applied tape and finished painting the inside of the drawers black. I couldn’t leave them as is because it looked terrible, and the paint also got rid of the musty smell.

A few people have asked how we pull the drawers out. All we do is grab the outer pegs and pull. Because of this, I may go back and reinforce the pegs with a nail gun so they don’t come off. But I don’t have one right now so until then, it’s staying as is.


My kiddo thinks it’s awesome and I hope he remembers how much I enjoyed doing this for him. It’s probably one of the most special gifts I’ve ever given anyone.